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The February Fifth Forum: Cultivating Community

Level Two Information:

Reason and Purpose Behind the Forum

Designed by the President's Council on Intercultural Initiatives, the February Fifth Forum: Cultivating Community, was designed to engage the Knox community in dialogue about existing campus relations and power structures, and about the personal and institutional changes needed to improve these aspects of our campus environment. The impetus for this highly intensive and day-long forum came from concerns raised in three previous and smaller scale "open forums" sponsored consecutively by our Student Senate, our Greek organizations, and our Office of Intercultural Life. In all three forums, repeated frustrations with harassment and discrimination, especially the subtler forms, were expressed along with the inadequacies of current institutional policy and procedure to effectively respond to these concerns. Participants also expressed concern over the amount of clearly established institutional support and advocacy in place for improvement upon these concerns. Because the President's Council on Intercultural Initiatives strongly felt such institutional support and advocacy already was in place, they determined that further investigation into where this support was lost, and why people didn't feel engaged in the integral frameworks of the campus, was necessary. They then began plans for the February Fifth Forum.

The Program

Throughout the day, students, faculty and staff participated in case-study discussions; witnessed a powerful performance piece titled Face to Face and brought to us by Story Performances; experienced a form of street theater presented by Knox Students and exemplifying their frustrations and experiences with discrimination on campus; and engaged in dialogue about what changes and proactive measures we could take as an institution to improve our campus relations and power structures. Participation was voluntary, and we were encouraged by the standing-room only attendance of the performances, and the majority of the campus that chose to join in the conversations taking place during the day. An itemized and detailed account of the program is provided in the level three information for this section.

The Result

The February Fifth Forum has proven to be a turning point on our campus in that the amount of discussion, and the increased awareness over our campus relations and power structures has been phenomenal. Faculty, staff, and students alike learned that the healthy, diverse community is possible only through the engagement and dedication of its members, and that silence or indifference to this end is really a statement against the diverse community. Also, we came to terms with the fact that, whether intentional or ignorant, injustices do occur on campus, and it is everyone's responsibility to make sure that when they do happen, full and positive resolution takes place. We have come to define our "community" as one where, though we may not share personal goals, we do share the common goal of creating and experiencing an educational and diverse environment conducive to everyone's well-being and compatibility, emphasizing the benefits and richness of difference as a unified and shared diverse experience.

Follow-Up

Though the forum will not always be held on February Fifth, and though topics might become more focused as we learn where our greatest challenges lie, we plan to continue an annual reflection and evaluation of our progress as we now see the benefits of such a direct and concerted effort. Another result of the Forum is the addition of the Institutional Policy and Procedure subcommittee of the President's Council on Intercultural Initiatives, whose objective is to evaluate current judiciary policy and procedure, and to investigate a means of improving them. More information about the forum in the form of publicity, reviews, reports, and articles is available in the Level Three information for this section.

Practical Examples and Working Documents related to this topic

Level Three Information:

Agenda:

February Fifth Forum: Cultivating Community Agenda and Descriptions of Events

Case Study Discussions

Either during class periods through the voluntary choice of faculty members, or in alternate classrooms with other faculty, staff, and student facilitators, everyone will have the opportunity to analyze a case study compiled from actual situations and experiences of Knox community members. Through discussion, we will identify where positive communication breaks down and becomes a barrier to effective interaction between people, why such breakdown occurs, and what can be done in Knox's future to prevent similar problems.

Face to Face Performance

Face to Face is a fast paced performance piece that deals head-on with contemporary community relations. It is presented by a skilled team of artist-educators committed to encouraging cultural diversity and unity through self-expression and cross-cultural communication. It unfolds in a series of monologues in which the performers tell their own personal stories, and dialogue-dramas that touch on history, stereotyping, speech and language, class, gender, interracial relationships, and personal and group identity as elements to influencing the racial picture. The performance is followed by group discussion.

Community Lunch

All faculty, staff, and students are invited to join for lunch in the Hard Knox Cafe to continue conversation on the morning's case study discussions, and the Face to Face performance. Also, a team of Knox students will perform dramatizations of situations that demonstrate some of the most common forms of communication breakdown that take place on our campus.

Afternoon Campus-Assessment Discussions

During the afternoon class schedule, each period will have a series of rooms and facilitators assigned for anyone who wishes to participate in an evaluation of campus relations at present, and in planning proactive measures to improve such relations for Knox College. Discussion of the morning performances will be included.

Facilitator Wrap-up Session

Group facilitators will meet with the performers of Face to Face to share the day's experiences, and to assess the morning discussions. This will also be the time for facilitators to share their own opinions and thoughts on the topics of the day, since as facilitators, they have refrained from inserting personal opinion in the earlier discussions.

Community Assembly: Where Do We Go From Here?

The performers of Face to Face and designated Knox members will open discussion to the entire community for their feedback on the day, and what participants envision for the future in communication relations on campus. Assessment forms will be distributed, and follow-up plans determined at this time. The performers of Face to Face will also share vital communication skills and planning that allow for positive growth and interaction among a diverse campus community.

Face to Face Information/Advertisement:

FACE TO FACE
presented by STORY PERFORMANCES
Director/Manager: January Kiefer
At the Midtown Arts Center
3207 Washington Avenue
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314-533-0566
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FACE TO FACE is a fast-paced performance piece that deals head-on with contemporary community relations. It is an excellent vehicle for opening dialogue and moving forward on highly sensitive and uncomfortable issues.

FACE TO FACE is presented by a skilled team of artist-educators committed to encouraging cultural diversity and unity through self-expression and cross-cultural communication. It unfolds in a series of monologues in which performers tell their own personal stories, and dialogue-dramas that touch on history, stereotyping, speech and language, class, gender, interracial relationships, and personal and group identity as elements influencing the racial picture.

FACE TO FACE will be at Knox College on February Fifth o help us in our February Fifth Forum: Cultivating Community; as we explore our own campus community relations and power structures, and as we learn together our needs for progressive community development.

FACE TO FACE has been presented at the Missouri Conference for the Socialization of the Culturally Diverse Child, the Kansans of Color Conference, the St. Louis Area Secondary Principal's Association, the Midwest Desegregation Assistance Center's Regional Conference in Kansas City, Missouri, the National Training Association's Annual Conference in Asilomar, California, the Leadership for Diversity Conference in Dallas, Texas, and numerous other educational institutions and organizations including Oklahoma State University, Kansas State University, Webster University, Washington University, the St. Louis Community College System, and the Consolidated Services for School Reform National Conference at Virginia Beach, Virginia.

Case-Study Documents Cover Letter:

February Fifth Forum: Cultivating Community
Case Study Cover Letter

TO: Knox College Faculty, Staff, and Trained Student Facilitators
FROM: Sandra Idol, Coordinator of Intercultural Programs and Student Activities
RE: The February Fifth Forum Case Study Documents

Attached you will find four case study documents with discussion questions and facilitation guidelines.

Please understand that the choice to lead a case study discussion is voluntary, and that just because you have received these documents, you are not obligated to facilitate a discussion. They have been distributed to all faculty and staff, plus the trained student facilitators, to provide the option for you to lead a discussion if you wish.

The documents are based on, but not replicas of, stories that Knox community members have submitted to me in confidentiality. In no circumstance has the gender, department, ethnicity, and/or position of any person or setting been duplicated. Also, each document is a merging of at least three stories, and therefore as a story itself, is not based on any exact situation at Knox. Please emphasize this to your group if you are facilitating so that no one is falsely accused of being represented in any of these stories. If you have questions about the stories and their origins, please contact me. Those who have submitted stories being used in the documents, have been contacted and have approved their distribution and use.

The questions that are listed after each section in the documents are there to help you guide the discussion. If you have other questions you'd like to ask, or if you only want to focus on certain sections, please feel free to use them in any way you deem appropriate. The goal of the discussion, to encourage participants to start thinking critically about our campus relations and community issues in a progressive manner, is the only constant for the discussions.

Thank you for your participation in this forum.

Case Study Facilitation Guidelines:

February Fifth Forum: Cultivating Community

Facilitation Guidelines
Compiled from Various Sources

These guidelines are offered to you simply for added structure in your facilitation, and are not meant to be used in the discussion itself. Simply keep them in mind as you interact with your group, understanding the unique position you are in as the group "leader."

Qualities of a Facilitator:

  • A deep commitment to the issue of eliminating racism and/or injustice.
  • An ability to honor people's feelings.
  • A willingness to keep doing one's own healing work.
  • Friendships with members of other ethnic groups.

Facilitating Behaviors:

  • Encourage: being friendly, warm, responsive to others, respectfully dealing with individuals and their ideas, agreeing and accepting contributions from others.
  • Initiate: suggesting new ideas, new definitions, new attacks on the problem or new organization of ideas.
  • Seek: asking for clarification or suggestions, requesting additional information or facts.
  • Orient: bringing the group back on task when they have deviated on a tangent that seems unnecessary.
  • Give: offering facts or generalizations, relating one's own experience to the group problem to illustrate points.
  • Evaluate: asking questions to cause the group to look at a value in a different manner or more in depth.
  • Summarize: pulling together related ideas restating things after the group has discussed them for focus.
  • Mediate: harmonizing, conciliating differences in points of view, diffusing conflict.
  • Gatekeep: trying to make it possible for another member to make a contribution to the group, or suggesting limited talking time for everyone so that all will have a chance to be heard.
  • Clarify: interpreting ideas or suggestions and clearing up confusion.

Steps Toward Becoming an Interculturally Sensitive Person

  1. Admit that my way of perceiving the world is not universal.
  2. Believe in the necessity of understanding my own culture prior to discovering the cultures of others.
  3. Decide to embrace opportunities for encountering others who are different.
  4. Recognize and admit that my initial reaction to cultural difference may be defensive either by denigrating the differing culture or implying my culture is superior.
  5. Recognize and admit that my initial reaction to cultural difference may be to deny my own culture in order to gain acceptance from a differing culture.
  6. Discern from my investigation of my own culture the valuable cultural traits that affect my attitudes and behavior.
  7. Let go of my prejudices as I discover them within myself and make amends to the persons and groups that I have hurt as a result of my prejudice whenever possible.
  8. Discern from my encounters of other cultures and reflect on what makes their cultural traits valuable to them.
  9. Continue to increase and modify my inventory of my own cultural traits by practicing steps 3-7.
  10. Remain silent and listen when my discomfort toward others' descriptions of cultural differences causes me to trivialize their differences.
  11. Actively seek opportunities such as reading and listening to and interacting with those with extensive cross-cultural experience that will enhance my relationships with others.
  12. Withhold judgment when I encounter what I consider "improper" verbal and non-verbal behavior and attempt to discern what is attributable to cultural traits and values.
  13. Honestly believe that I can value difference among people and use them as opportunities to learn about self and others by practicing the above steps regularly.
  14. Immerse myself in a different culture for an extended period of time and continue to practice the above steps.
  15. Commit myself to understanding a given situation not only from my point of view but also from the cultural world view of the other.
  16. Accept my cultural marginality and use it creatively to help individuals and groups to better understand each other.
  17. Recognize that this is an ongoing process!

Case-Study Facilitation Worksheet:

February Fifth Forum: Cultivating Community
Case-Study Facilitation Worksheet

1. Explain the purpose of analyzing the case study document, and the nature of these documents.

Example: "The purpose of the case study discussions is to initiate critical thinking about our own campus relations issues, and to engage in dialogue about the proactive measures that can be taken to alleviate campus conflict and dilemmas. The documents are based on, but not replicas of, stories that Knox community members have submitted in confidentiality. In no circumstance has the gender, department, ethnicity, major, and/or age of any person or setting been duplicated. Therefore, though you may find similarities between the stories and your own experiences, it is very unlikely that the story is actually based on your prior knowledge. Please refrain from assuming that anyone you know is represented in the story."

If anyone has a question about the origin of the stories, they should contact Sandra Idol at ext. 7223, box 595, or sidol@knox.edu.

2. Lay down ground rules for the group. This is an important step to insure that everyone will have a safe haven for discussion.

Example: Rule #1: "Though discussion of the actual case study, and about general campus issues can extend outside of this classroom, any personal stories, examples, comments, or opinions cannot leave this room. If you aren't sure if something can be shared outside of this room, PLEASE check with me AND the person whose comment you wish to share before you do so."

Rule #2: "If someone shares a personal story or opinion, it is not O.K. to criticize that person for their own beliefs. If you choose to respond to an opinion, please base your response solely on your own experience, and not on your perception of the other person's opinion. Please maintain respect for each person in the room, and conduct conversation in that manner."

3. Read the case study document one section at a time, facilitating discussion based on the section's questions before continuing on to the next section. Below are other questions you can ask should conversation take another turn, or if you have extra time at the end of the discussion.

  • At what point in the story do you think the conflict started or the problems began?
  • How could this conflict have been resolved differently to the benefit of all concerned?
  • How could this conflict have been avoided from the very start?
  • Does this situation seem familiar? Have you ever witnessed or experienced a similar situation that might have been resolved differently? better?
  • Ultimately, what happens when such a situation isn't fully and positively resolved? Who suffers? What happens in the future to the community involved? In future interactions? Also, whose responsibility is it to make sure that the situation is fully resolved?
  • Could there have been a different system in place to handle this conflict better? What would it be like?

4. There are two levels of facilitation. If your group is hesitant about talking, and seems uncomfortable with the exercise, keep discussion at the first level of simply analyzing the text, not making connection between the document and themselves, or the campus at large. If your group is responsive and involved, the next level of association, that of making inferences and connections to personal and institutional experiences, is ideal.

5. Save time at the end of the discussion for further comments, making sure that everyone has a chance to leave feeling like they've had "their say." Also, end the discussion by reiterating the confidentiality rule, and by reminding participants that the document is based on stories shared by Knox community members. Emphasis should end of the fact that a community is every members' responsibility, and that we each have an obligation to insure that our interactions are positive, and that when conflict occurs, we pursue full resolution to the best of our abilities.

Case Study Document #1

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Case Study Document #1

Please read each section of the story out loud to your group, and lead them in a discussion about the questions that follow before proceeding on to the next section.

Section One:

Susan is a first-year student who was born and has always lived in Arizona. She is a first-generation college student, meaning she is the first person in her family to go to college. Susan is also bilingual, in that she has spoken Spanish and English fluently all her life. When Susan first comes to Knox, she meets April, another student from the south-west who is also a first generation college student and bilingual. April and Susan are both in the same preceptorial class, and agree to sit together on the first day of class.

When Susan gets to class, April has already chosen seats near the back of the room. Susan sits down, and a few minutes later, the professor walks in. When seeing Susan and April in the back of the room, the only two Latina students in the class, she asks them if they are "keeping near the border." Susan and April don't respond, but are shocked by the comment.

  • What should Susan and April do?
  • Why do you think the professor made this comment? What motivation did she have, or what might have been her intentions?

Section Two:

Later that week, after Susan and April agree to sit closer to the front of the class, discussion starts to focus on language barriers between women and men, stemming from a reading of Bell Hooks Talking Back. The professor makes a quick comment about how "some of you, however, are probably from homes where the women are more dominant, and the men probably don't speak at all, or even have much control; but this is just because of your culture." Since Susan and April are the only minorities in the class, the comment comes across as very pointed. After class, they talk together about what they should do, and Susan decides that if one more comment is made, she will report her professor.

One week later, discussion is focused on how comfortable people feel in America. One student in the class says he always thought of America as a place where anyone can make their way as long as they work hard and follow the rules. The professor points out that it may not be as simple as that, since people with the most power in the country are predominately white and male, and there are stereotypes that others must confront on a daily basis that may keep them from enjoying the fruits of their labors as much as a white male may enjoy. She concludes this statement with "Susan and April probably understand what I mean since the U.S. isn't their first home. I'm sure they've had a lot more to face in learning English, and even getting into college, than some of the rest of you here." Susan and April get up and leave the class

  • How do you feel about the professor at this point?
  • What do you think Susan and April should do now? Do you agree with their plan to report the professor?

Section Three:

Later that day, while meeting with her advisor to talk about what happened in class, Susan is told that many Latino men and women have made considerable contributions to the U.S. and World progress. She is also told that they, too, had to meet with horrible injustices, but that they rose above them, and succeeded in spite of all that was against them. The advisor does say that he will speak with her professor, and that Susan should come back if things don't improve.

  • How do you feel about the advisor's response to Susan? Is it appropriate? If not, what do you think is problematic about the response?
  • How do you think Susan feels about the response?
  • How else could the advisor have responded to Susan?

Section Four:

The professor does ask to meet with Susan and April the next day, and apologizes for the comments she has made in class. She says she had thought se was "understanding" their background, but now understands she was only applying some preconceived notions she had of the two girls based on their ethnicity that were obviously ungrounded and inappropriate. She asks that if she again makes a comment that is inappropriate, that Susan and April please come and tell her so that she can become aware of what she says in class, and learn not to make similar assumptions in the future.

  • How do you feel about this resolution?
  • How do you feel about the professor at this point?
  • What would have happened if Susan and April had approached the professor before going to the advisor?
  • What would have been the long-term effects on Susan and April if they had not pursued action of any sort? On the professor? On the community at large?

Case Study Document #2

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Case Study Document #2

Please read each section of the story out loud to your group, and lead them in a discussion about the questions that follow before proceeding on to the next section.

Section One:

Professor Whittier teaches Biology, and assigns lab groups randomly by entering his class list into a computer program. However, he always tells the groups that if the situation warrants it, he will rearrange the groups. A few weeks into the term, a female student named Susan approaches him about conflicts she has with another student in her group. She says she knows this student from Black Alliance meetings and has seen him at sporting events, but that this is the first time she's really interacted with him in a classroom setting. Also, she adds that outside the class, she considers him more of an acquaintance than a friend. She is concerned because this student continually makes comments about her appearance in front of the group, the most recent comment being "why don't you wear that shirt you wore to the alliance meeting the other night to class? It showed you off really well." She also feels that whenever they start to work on a lab, this student makes a point of getting "too close." She works well with the rest of the lab group, however, and would prefer to have him leave the group rather than her, since he doesn't seem to interact with the other members of the group at all, or only coldly.

  • What should Professor Whittier do?
  • What ethnicity are Susan and the male student in question?
  • How do you feel about the male student at this point?

Section Two:

Professor Whittier decides the first step would be to meet with the male student since he's noticed that Greg doesn't participate in class discussions, and hasn't seemed to content in the classroom, though his written work has been fine. He asks Greg about the class, and Greg says he's fine with it, only he's not too sure everyone in the class is comfortable with him, since he's the only male of color in the class. Professor Whittier encourages Greg to speak up in class discussions, and comments on the quality of the written work. He also emphasizes that Greg can come to him if anyone in the class does express something inappropriate. He then mentions that he's heard there's some tension between Greg and Susan in lab. Greg says that Susan is a "friend" and knows he's just joking around. He also says the rest of the students don't know what they're talking about, and probably just don't want him in the group. Professor Whittier then lets Michael know that it is Susan who has approached him about the situation. Michael expresses surprise and disappointment. He says he wishes she would have said something to him, and that he really thought she understood. He is used to "flirting" with his female friends, and that this is the first time anyone has said anything negative about it. Professor Whittier asks if Greg would be willing to talk with Susan in his office about this situation to see if it can be resolved without anyone having to move out of the lab group.

  • How well did Professor Whittier deal with Greg?
  • Why do you think Greg is surprised to hear about Susan's complaint?
  • Why do you think Greg is concerned about how the rest of the class responds to him?

Section Three:

Susan comes in, and through discussion, Greg and Susan conclude that they can still work together in the lab group, and that Greg will need to treat the situation as a professional and academic one, and that Susan will need to alert Greg and Professor Whittier if she feels uncomfortable again with the way Greg acts toward her.

  • How did you feel about this resolution?
  • Did Professor Whittier do the right thing?

Section Four:

Professor Whittier feels some relief that the situation has been resolved, but uncomfortable because he isn't sure he would have dealt with the situation in the same way had Greg not been African American. He feels he might have been more apt to simply change the lab groups around had two white students been involved, and less cautious about taking the disciplinary action. He is glad to know what Michael faced coming into the Biology Department, and hopes that Michael continues with the major, but doesn't think he'll ever know if he responded to this situation appropriately or not, since he doesn't know if it is all right to confront a student differently based on their ethnicity.

  • How do you feel about Professor Whittier's reaction to the entire situation?
  • What might you say to Professor Whittier if you were his superior and he came to you to ask about his unease?
  • What would have happened if Professor Whittier, rather than try to interact, had chosen not to respond to the situation at all? or had simply moved Greg to a new group without talking to him?

Case Study Document #3

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Case Study Document #3

Section One:

Judy has worked as a custodian on campus for seven years. During this time, she has interacted well with students in their suites, and they often find her to visit when they come back for homecoming or other events. Recently, Judy has been given the added responsibility of cleaning a set of offices in an academic building next to the dorm that is also under her supervision. One evening, as Judy is organizing one of the offices, the professor walks in and, after finding out her role and what she is doing, asks if she can clean somewhere else first so that he can finish some work. She complies, and moves on to work in another office first. After a few moments, the professor rushes into the office where she is working and asks, rather angrily, where the papers that were on his desk are. Judy explains that she hasn't touched his desk, and that, in fact, she had only emptied the trash in his office before he came in. He begins to yell, asserting the importance of the missing papers, and insinuating that Judy simply won't admit she's moved them, or thrown them away, because she doesn't want to get into trouble. Regardless, Judy maintains that she never touched his desk, and suggests that he might have moved them himself. He leaves muttering insults under his breath, including calling Judy an obscenity.

  • What should Judy do?

Section Two:

The next day, Judy tells her supervisor what happened, because she is afraid the professor will report her. Her supervisor hasn't heard anything, but is angry about how the professor treated Judy. He suggests they go to the Dean of the College to ask that action be taken against the professor. When they meet with the Dean, however, he expresses sympathy for what Judy experienced, and agrees that the professor was very wrong in his actions, but explains that the professor has such a great impact on the students, it would not be in the college's best interest to publicly take action against him. He asks that, instead, Judy's supervisor simply assign someone else to that area, and the dean will talk to the professor and ask that any future complaints be directed only to the supervisor. He also asks that Judy and her supervisor not tell other people about the situation.

  • Do you agree with the way Judy's supervisor responded to her story?
  • Do you agree with the way the dean responded to her story?
  • How could either the supervisor or the dean have responded differently to the situation?
  • What, in your mind, would have been the best possible solution?

Section Three:

Though Judy feels O.K. with this solution, (at least she won't have to deal with the professor again,) her supervisor is very upset about the fact that nothing more is to be done. He feels that had a student come to the Dean with a similar complaint, he would have responded differently. Also, he feels that Judy's relationship with the students was undermined by the Dean's emphasis on the importance of the professor's relationship with the students. However, he doesn't know who else to talk to about the situation, not knowing who would support him, or what anyone else could do to help, and so doesn't proceed with any further action.

  • How do you feel about Judy's response? About the supervisor's response?
  • Is there something else the supervisor have done to aid the resolution?
  • What would have happened if Judy hadn't told her supervisor about this situation? What effect would it have had, long term, on Judy? on her interactions with students? on her interactions with other faculty and staff?
  • What might be the long term effects as things stand on the professor, the professor's students, and on Judy and the supervisor?

Case Study Document #4

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Case Study Document #4

Section One:

Amy is a sophomore in college, and has just found out about the lesbian coalition on campus. She goes to the next meeting, and is pleased to find many students in attendance. She becomes a regular member and enjoys the sense of community she feels with the group during that year. The next year, Amy returns and finds herself roommates with Allysa, a transfer student who is interested in the same major, and someone Amy feels she'll get along with just fine. They interact well as roommates and in classes, though they don't spend a lot of social time together.

One day, as Amy is returning to her suite, she sees Allysa and some other suitemates walking ahead of her. Two of the girls have their arms locked and are walking ahead of Allysa, laughing. Allysa hurries to catch up and shouts ahead, "wait up, you lesbo-sickos!" Amy is shocked and hurt by what she hears.

Once in the room, Amy asks Allysa just what she meant by that comment, and Allysa explains that it was just a joke, and that she knows that the two girls who were ahead of here aren't lesbians, and therefore shouldn't have been offended. Amy explains that she is a lesbian, and did hear the comment. She suggests that Allysa needs to be aware of people around her, and not assume that everyone, regardless of their sexuality, would be comfortable with such as statement.

  • How do you feel about Amy's response to Allysa's comment?
  • How might Allysa respond to Amy's comment in their room?

Section Two:

The next day, Amy is surprised to be called into her head resident's office. The head resident explains that her roommate wants her to be moved out, because she isn't comfortable living with her. The head resident asks her some questions, and from them Amy infers that Allysa told the head resident that Amy was "after" her, and that Allysa, since she is heterosexual, didn't want the advances. Amy is very angry, and explains the situation as she understands it to the head resident, including the fact that she is faithful to the relationship she is in, and that Allysa didn't even know her sexual orientation until the day before, and had never complained about "advances" before then.

  • What should the head resident do?
  • Why does Allysa feel Amy should move out?

Section Three:

Amy voluntarily moves into the single room in the suite because she isn't sure she wants to room with Allysa anymore. In the meantime, Allysa tells other people in the suite about what has happened. Though some of the girls are quiet and suggest that it's none of their business what Amy's sexual orientation is, others express shock and side with Allysa in her desire to have Amy moved out. When they find out that Amy is only going to be moved into a single room in the same suite, they aren't happy with the solution.

Amy notices the change in the suite in that now she is always alone in the bathroom, and that the other women make a point of being fully clothed or wrapped up when in the suite; whereas before, shared bathrooms and people scurrying around to borrow clothes was normal. Amy goes again to the head resident to ask for help, feeling completely misunderstood by the people she had thought were her friends.

  • What stereotypes might be controlling the suite's judgment in this situation?
  • What should the head resident do?

Section Four:

The head resident calls a meeting, and Amy is given the first chance to talk to the group about how she feels. She tells them that she hasn't changed at all just because now they know her sexual orientation, and that she's never hidden it from them. One girl responds by saying that she's never mentioned it before, and Amy says that she didn't think it was a secret since she felt she was open with her relationship on campus, she did attend meetings for the lesbian coalition, and she felt that had such a topic come up in the suite, she wouldn't have purposefully hidden this about her. Another girl then speaks up explaining she hasn't before because she felt uncomfortable about the overall atmosphere in the suite. She says she always knew Amy's sexual orientation, and simply wasn't bothered by it. She's been upset by the suite's reactions and wishes that they could go back to how they were before, since everyone got along so well then. She points out that no one could really say that Amy has made 'advances' since she's acted no differently than anyone else as far as sharing the bathroom, or commenting on how people look, etc. The head resident then explains to the suite about the stereotypes that have been assumed in this situation, and suggests that maybe they could learn more about why these stereotypes are wrong if they talk to Amy and others before making assumptions.

  • What might the women in the suite ask Amy now that communication is more open?
  • How might Amy feel at this point?
  • What else could the head resident do, or the suite do, to resolve the situation?

Section Five:

The women talk for two hours, and at the end, Amy and the rest of the suite agree that there is no reason for the living arrangements to be changed, and specific women apologize to Amy for what has happened. Allysa tells Amy that she still doesn't know if she's comfortable with Amy as a roommate, since she still feels Amy was 'hiding' something from her, but that she's sorry everything became such a problem. She now sees how such a seemingly innocent joke actually can cause a lot of damage since it was her comment that lead to the big suite meeting that just took place.

  • How do you feel about Allysa's response to Amy?
  • What is keeping Allysa from feeling totally comfortable with the situation and the resolution?
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